From secondary infertility to nervously pregnant to mothering two. Reports from the front.
Tuesday, January 06, 2009
I am evil
My 45 year-old sister-in-law just emailed to tell me that her latest IUI was unsuccessful. Was I sad for her? No, I was relieved. Somehow the thought of her being more fertile than me stirs some very negative emotions. I am evil.
You know, I've been wondering about offering IUIs for a 45 year-old, especially one with one blocked tube. I wonder if the doctor is being compassionate because she was so resistant to donor egg/ IVF or if the doctor was just taking money. I may never know.
Glad to hear that I'm not an evil bitch!
And Chris, my spring break is the end of February/ first week of March. Is that still a bad time?
45 and an IUI seems less likely than usual but who knows. There are better ways to increase your chances... I think those kinds of IF related feelings never truly go away. They're normal and most women in the same position would feel the same way.Not evil!
Definitely not evil. Human, I'd say. I don't think there's anyone in the IF community that hasn't had similar thoughts. Cripes, I was glad when my sister had a chemical (on her first month of trying). Not glad that she had a m/c, but glad that she wasn't in fact pregnant. KWIM. Now that's evil.
A month after being told that there was a less than 1% chance of conceiving again using my own eggs, I found myself pregnant. After an anxious pregnancy, I found myself blessed with another daughter. We decided to temp fate and try for a third child. Two miscarriages later, I'm trying to figure out what comes next. In this space, I talk about mothering, working and life in general.
6 comments:
Not bitchy at all.
And I don't think 2.5 is that bad for a trip to Disney, but Spring Break? The WORST time every!
Oh, I just realized you didn't say bitchy, you said evil. Not evil either.
I need reading comprehension help these days.
And seriously, what kind of reputable doctor does IUIs on a 45 year old woman?
I agree with Chris. IUI at 45 is a little like baking a cake without rising powder, ummm.
Evil doctor.
You know, I've been wondering about offering IUIs for a 45 year-old, especially one with one blocked tube. I wonder if the doctor is being compassionate because she was so resistant to donor egg/ IVF or if the doctor was just taking money. I may never know.
Glad to hear that I'm not an evil bitch!
And Chris, my spring break is the end of February/ first week of March. Is that still a bad time?
45 and an IUI seems less likely than usual but who knows. There are better ways to increase your chances... I think those kinds of IF related feelings never truly go away. They're normal and most women in the same position would feel the same way.Not evil!
Definitely not evil. Human, I'd say. I don't think there's anyone in the IF community that hasn't had similar thoughts. Cripes, I was glad when my sister had a chemical (on her first month of trying). Not glad that she had a m/c, but glad that she wasn't in fact pregnant. KWIM. Now that's evil.
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